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The Offense That Heals the World

October 16, 2006

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Untitled ~ Canon 30d

The effort to say nothing that will offend anyone is to say nothing that will benefit anyone. Likewise, a culture that values above all else not offending anyone is a culture whose sole purpose is to maintain superficiality and polite dishonesty among its citizens. It may be the same for the Church.
~ Roy Howard

The next time someone calls what I believe into question, I will remember this quote. If it weren't for the challenges to the narrow thinking of my youth, I wouldn't have opened myself up to the rich, creative mysteries of the world, symbolism, or Buddhist meditation. Thank goodness I was pestered by annoying people! Thank God I began questioning myself and what I believed. It's also probably why I sometimes don't mince words here. Being afraid of speaking your truth, especially on a blog, makes no sense to me.

But, you know what? I'm figuring out this "being challenged" thing... it never really ends, does it? Not for me, at least. Not as long as I continue to hold onto the pernicious idea I'm an expert at anything. I can form an opinion based upon my personal experience, but isn't personal experience a relative thing?

Someone recently summed it up this way after I pointed out how Christianity sets us up to see our human nature as bad, and how, as a result, Christianity has a hard time aligning itself with nature.

Someone: (smiling) "Susan, you're a fascist."

Me: "A FASCIST? I'm offended!"

Someone: "Yes, a fascist. You make broad sweeping statements about Chrisianity sometimes and don't take into account all the level-headed, liberal, thinking, environmentally friendly Christians who really do exist. They're out there."

Me: "You know I know that. I read Real Live Preacher! My favorite place is the totally liberal National Cathedral, geez!"

Someone: "Yeah, but not everyone who reads what you write knows that. I know you, so I get it. But not everyone realizes where you're coming from, or your personal history. Maybe you should think about that."

Me: (thinking)

Me: (thinking some more... about how he kind of sounds like my mother.)

Me: "You're right. I am a fascist."

Someone: "Well, I just made a broad sweeping statement about a person who makes broad sweeping statements. I guess that makes me a fascist too."

Me: "Takes one to know one."

Someone: "Indeed it do."

I rest my case on the offense that heals the world.

Posted by susan at October 16, 2006 05:49 PM

Comments

Wow! What a shot!

...and some very nice insightfullness also!

Posted by: dan at October 16, 2006 06:06 PM

The flower shot is absolutely stunning.

The quote is so wonderful I have copied it and will send it to our minister. It says so much.

Your entry is a riot. Yes, you must speak up when you feel people around you are being small and prejudice. It takes guts to speak up and you take risks of losing friends and irritating family. BUT............to be silent is to agree.

Posted by: janet at October 17, 2006 04:17 PM

I figured you'd get a kick out of it!

:)

Love ~ susan

Posted by: susan at October 17, 2006 04:31 PM

good thoughts...thoughts i will keep in mind...

and this pic...well, it just took my breath away!!!

Posted by: la vie en rose at October 17, 2006 04:56 PM

Hi there - gorgeous photos - I visit almost daily - thank you! When I read the title to your post today, my first thought was, "Ah, yes - the cross". But perhaps that is not what you meant. :-)

Posted by: Ali at October 17, 2006 11:18 PM

Ali,

I love your comment and I think you should have a blog of your own, so I could visit you. Your idea turns the feeling of offense on it's ear. The example of Jesus' death certainly fits into my thought process here. It might not be completely evident, but I do hold the beauty and wisdom and symbolism of the sacrifice of the cross in my heart. For me, I think it's even more effective to think of Jesus' sacrifice as an example, if one so touched by grace and so enlightened could turn the cheek the way he did, then certainly in the small things, so can I.

Lovely comment, sincerely, I appreciate your thought here.

:)

Posted by: susan at October 17, 2006 11:46 PM

That was a breathtaking shot Susan. Great job.

I agree with that quote. I do not believe truth is relative. For the sake of truth, we should challenge thoughts; not people, but thoughts. And we should make an effort to find out if the basis for what we belief is strong enough.

Like you, if it was not for my annoying mom, I would not have discovered the beauty and logic of Christianity. I was brought up a nominal Buddhist in a nation where Islam is the state religion. I then spent my working life in a neighboring country where Buddhist are the majority.

We are usually quite content living in our comfort zone, believing whatever that has been passed on. It's almost like tradition. It never occur to us to question what we believe because we don't see the need to. Then we wake-up one day, if we ever wake-up, with a huge ?. For me, the waking moment was when life drove me to a corner and I find myself suddenly open to suggestions and ideas that are new to me. It's always more refreshing to investigate and discover new ideas than to rediscover the old. And like they say, the grass always seems to be greener the other side. Some of us abandon our old beliefs because we are genuinely disappointed with it, some just want something new because we assume we know all there is to know about the the current one and find it wanting. We don't bother to investigate if we have misunderstood it. Until I discovered Christianity, I did not have the desire or saw the need to reflect on my previous belief system. Christianity opened my eyes to the importance of what and where I put my faith in. It showed me there are very real consequences for believing in the wrong thing. It help me think. That's when I decide to learn more about my previous beliefs. So I actually know more about Buddhism when I'm a Christian than when I was a Buddhist. It's funny how things work out but it happens all the time. I bet it's the same for you too. I am not saying I'm an expert now. Far from it. But based on what I discovered so far, nothing explains and matches with reality and logic as well as Christianity does. Neither have I found any other better alternatives to that which Christ has to offer. With Christ, I feel my spirit at rest...as if it has found it's home. It's still a wonderfully strange feeling even now, after 7 years. Yes, even when life is chaotic and doesn't seem to make sense, I feel that rest. I can't explain it but I suspect you know.

All of us are on a journey. With so many options available, it's little wonder why we are confused. We can't be 100% sure but that doesn't mean we can't be more sure of one than the other. We have been given the ability to think and investigate. If we have found bread for our soul, it's only right that we tell others where to find it because mostly likely there are others who are hungry.

I've also written something related to this in my post - Everybody needs Jesus? Maybe Not and God and Us- if you're interested.

http://theragamuffinkid.blogspot.com/2006/09/everybody-needs-jesus-maybe-not.html

http://theragamuffinkid.blogspot.com/2005/07/god-and-us.html

:-))

Posted by: rk at October 18, 2006 04:12 AM

It's what I love most about your blog Susan... that fearless way you can just put it out there so honestly. I've yet to evolve to that degree, but people like you inspire me to keep reaching for my truth. Reaching and someday being comfortable owning it. In the South especially, polite superficiality sadly reigns in many of it's women.

Posted by: samtzmom at October 18, 2006 06:21 AM

I like to think nothing is all bad or all good, you are not all fascist...
Your photos steal my heart!

Posted by: tongue in cheek at October 18, 2006 04:16 PM

A great read once more!! Keep up the good work!!

Posted by: jzr at October 18, 2006 07:40 PM